Why We Miss Social Cues - Now I know Why

Adderall can help you to become a "Social Butterfly" instead of a "Bull in a China Shop".

Now that I'm taking Adderall, I'm more aware of the feelings of others.
I see the look in their eyes that says, "I don't feel like talking" or "I'm busy and stressed."
I pick up on the little "glint of emotion" in their eyes that I missed before.

Why?

In my opinion it's very simple. My brain didnt work fast enough to process the info.

NOW, since my brain is kicked up a notch, it registers 3 crucial things in nano seconds:

1) What my eyes see ( Facial Expression)

2)It then sends that image ,or facial expression ,to an emotional , gut instinct, part of my brain
and body. A signal is created , kind of a chemical, adrenaline, or warning feeling.

3) Then, my mind is aware of that guy emotion or feeling, and is able to think,
"I feel that warning, I'd better make an adjustment!"

Before Adderall:
I would be looking at someone's face, but not really feel what I was seeing. All I could manage was to process was what was going on in my mind. That is easy, I have close proximity to my own thoughts. They're already spinning away.

I wasn't thinking fast enough to do the above steps of processing images, through my "Gut Instinct" . This made me look selfish and self centered. I've gotten in trouble all my life for interrupting, and barging into scenes, "Talking Away".

Why is it so hard to change mental gears and read others emotions?
It's like listening to a radio station .. it's easy to keep on listening to the station you have dialed in .. but, if someone asked you to switch stations , you'd have to think and reach over to change the station. That is what interpreting social situations is like for an ADD person. The brain doesn't have the "Energy or Spark" to change channels and feel what the eyes are seeing. It stays focused on inward thoughts, despite being surrounded by outside people, events, and cues.

It's like "Living in our own little world". Sound like a form of autism doesn't it?

Full LOOP thinking-
Adderall adds the spark that allows brain impulses and thoughts, to make a full loop from the eyes, to the instincts, back to "executive brain" that make decisions about appropriate behavior and speech. It allows subtle, "Manners and Social Graces" a chance to be felt and used.

It helps you to be calm, cool, collected. You learn to watch and size up people and situations. Your more aware.

It allows you to be aware of the "Bad Guys" and bad behavior.
What' s cool about this new ability to process feelings, is I'm more aware of my own emotions, and how others make me feel, which allows me more of a chance process bad treatment, or subtle put downs, glances, or tones of voice and sarcasm that used to fly by me till later, when I'd realize "Hey that guy was rude, why didn't I pick up on it? Duh" Then I'd be mad at myself.
I'd then wish I could go back and set him straight!! By then it was tooo late. Dang it!

This frustration and self disgust, is what causes eating disorders,alcohol abuse, cutting in those with ADD . You feel disrespected and dumb so you want to escape the bad feelings. I know, cause I used to binge eat over this stuff. I learned , it's best to reenact what happened and practice being more aware , and think "Next time I'll handle it better" A form of hypnosis where you relive it successfully. (It can take 30 seconds to re-do a scene and move on). Then forgive yourself and person who was rude.

I prefer to Move on - Be Peaceful - Feel Joy